I am not a procrastinator. Brad is a procrastinator. They say opposites attract but there comes a time in every relationship where certain qualities that are often overlooked in the beginning come to light.
When Brad or the boys ask me to do something, I just do it. If they need something, I make sure I buy it for them in a prompt and timely manner. For instance, Brad and the boys all needed deodorant last week when they were in town. I actually think my boys (all of them) eat deodorant for a snack they use so much of it. Anyway, I made sure they all had the brand they liked the next day.
Now, I don’t expect any applause or even a hug (maybe I do) but some type of acknowledgement would be nice. And, if I have to bring it up it doesn’t count. But I guess the best response I can expect is that they use it and they don’t smell. Can’t ask for much more.
Apparently in our family, my need for things does not rank as high as everyone else. I don’t think any of them understand the words "prompt and timely manner." I try not to be a pain but there are certain times I need them to do something for me. Not often, but sometimes.
Last night, I could not take it anymore and asked Brad if he had done something for me that I had been patiently waiting for him to be done. He replied," Not yet because it was not on his “list”". He told me if I did not put the item on his list it would not get done. UGH! I was trying so hard not to be a nag and what he wanted all along was a "list!" What do you know?
Unfortunately for Brad (or me - I have not figured out who yet), one of has to work on procrastination. Brad promised to be better (I have heard that before) and I have promised to be more flexible. Let’s see how that works out. I will definitely keep you informed.
Happy Empty Nesting!